Which leads me to my point:
In the mist of heart break and break ups a person is normally left with the Tarzan Syndrome.
Tarzan Syndrome- When a person can not move on from a past relationship or fling until finding the next.
The effects of this syndrome is that the person ends up in the same situation over and over again because they haven't allowed themselves to move on.
Advice: An individual should allow themselves to heal from previous heart break before getting involved with a new person.
Oh my god, this is the best piece of advice. I know people who do this and are miserable.
ReplyDeleteI've never hear4d of it refered to as the Tarzan Syndrome but that is a very fitting name. I totally agree this has caused major issues for the people in my life who just cannot be alone because they don't know how to be alone.
ReplyDeleteSo that is what it is called. In my younger days, the worst relationship advice I received was, the best way to get over one person is to move on to another. I tried it and it failed miserably. You are correct in saying you have to give yourself time to heal and also process the things from the previous relationship. If not, your new relationship will be marred by all of the bad things that happened. You will become the proverbial "bag lady".
ReplyDeleteI made the metaphor up myself. Lol
DeleteThis totally explains the situations a lot of my friends have gone through. It's refreshing to know that it has been identified as a syndrome.
ReplyDeleteGreat Blog Iesh, this make perfect sense when I think of a few of my situations. It always seemed as if I would be going through the same thing over and over. Crazy thing is you don't even realize your doing it. It becomes normal and that's the problem.
ReplyDeleteYou made some interesting points in your blog this week. I've had to learn the hard way on how to let go of my past and this assured me that I have grown alot to overcome these battles.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. So many people think that moving on involves you being with another person. Moving on only involves yourself. After being a couple with someone for so long you have to regain your individuality and actually be okay with it. If there was hurt or anger in the previous relationship a person must forgive and let go as a part of moving on. Planning to date another person without being over your previous relationship is a disaster waiting to happen because you are bringing so many emotions into the relationship before it even begins.
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