That 24/7 type of bond. You know! Like when you first meet a person and y'all click right away. And from that day forward, the both of you are working towards a relationship. You guys are either on the phone, texting, or in each other presence at all times.
Not looking too good for the future!
You see, when you attach yourself to a person that extreme, most of the time you tend to miss their flaws. Once you get hit with reality it's to late because you are so attached and in routine that you misconstrue your feelings for love. What you are actually feeling is lust and that person has now become a hard habit to break.Advice: Take Things Slow! Time only reveals vital information and characteristics of your future partner. You should give yourself time to get to know a person before allowing yourself to become attached.
Do not set yourselves up for failure Ladies and Gents!
You know when you go to church and the preacher is giving his sermon but it seems like he is talking to you?!... Lord, Jesus, this post just spoke to me . I agree, that a person should give themselves time to feel a person out because you never know what the outcome will be and what you thought you had never once was. Sad, but true. It takes time to get to know someone their likes, dislikes, and how their personality is. Its okay to have a "24/7 Bond" in my opinion because the more time you spend with someone the more interest you show and learn about them. As talked about in another blog, evaluate what you have before going head in and be head over heels for someone who only lusts for you. Get to know that person well.Work towards a friendship then if you like what you have work towards a relationship. I had to learn the hard way!
ReplyDeleteIts the dopamine. I have a friend that falls in love with everyone she dates, only to find out "feelings" have faded. You are correct, people need to take time. Building a relationship is not about bombarding each other with constant communication and visits in the early stages.
ReplyDeleteIts so hard trying to distinguish the true feelings from just the excitement of being around a new person and getting this new attention. When in this position we tend to ignore the signs and can not see the things that clearly show us that the relationship may not go far. Although the feeling is good at first, its so frustrating once you realize how much time you have wasted.
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